Most people think affairs of polygamous family is runned as that of monogamous  one. Well the answer is yes but in a more cumbersome way. Polygamous Family is one of those rampant  family pattern in exisitence in our recent world, where one has more that two wife or one has more than two husband. Polygyny is a family pattern where a man marry more than one wife while on the contrary  Polyhandry is a family patterm where a woman marry more than one man this type of polygamous  family  isnt always common in our society as it is often  regarded to as taboo in our society. Though some religious pattern see this as forbidden.
There fore we provide you with what you need to consider as the basis before dabbled into a Polygamous family which are carefully elucidated below;

1. Patience

Patience is the mother of all behaviour you need to have when considering  a Polygamous  family. There will always be a scenerio that upset us, but patience  is the key to all calmness and hint at solution without replacing it with another havoc. You know even with one wife there exist problem to solve not to talk of two or more which come with problem in folds.

2. Money

Many people believe money is part of what to consider when planning any marriage, which most people believe you are not upto the task if you dont have the money. Which many people also believe money solve almost  all problem we encounter in life. Therefore, before going to any polygamous family, money should also be the major factor considered as  Polygamous family comes with huge responsibilities financially, i.e there will be more children to raise, more material need to cater for e.t.c.

3. Equality

The next thing  to consider is Equality when going into  a Polygamous family. Partiality  is one of those major characteristic  of individual. If there  wont be equality  in the way we relation between our partners in a Polygamous  family there is no point going into it, so that one  feelings would not be hurt. The way we take care of them both finacially, materially, emotionally should be equal and the way we satisfy them sexually so that enemity will not set in anytime.


So as a conclusion, Polygamous family should not be a thing we rush into if we cant adequately provide those above listed point to make our family a smooth and peaceful one.


Author:- Adekanmi Praise Adesola
Studied Sociology in Osun state University

Every relationship has a suspicious guy sticking with the female folks which they are seen as rival by the main man. Research has shown that female feel very much comfortable when relating with guys even when they are in relationship more than their sex  mate. To whom they are dating this guy will always  be the reason  for their  jealousness, of which  series of complain would be lodge already but all effort seems in vain. To all guys this male friend around their lover, seems like that wind blowing their relationship  on and off.
In some cases, female partners will try all their possible best to make their affairs with their male friend clear to their lover. i.e show them their chat, text even put phone on speaker  when they call in an effort to be honest. But this will never satisfy their partner in any way.
As times goes on, we begin to wonder,Am i not enough for this girl? She doesnt love me with her heart? Is she having affairs with him?. The answer is No, she is not having affairs  with him but she is just doing a favour in a manner that spite you, no matter how worse the case may be do not put up any attitude to escalate the issue.
Research  proves that female often feel comfortable with guys when talking about life and relationship than ladies either  personal  issue or general one.
Below are reason why female partners  have male best  friends often than female;

1. SECRECY

Male has a talent to keep secret for a long  period of time more than female. Every ladies tends to tell what they cant inform their female friend about to male. To them they feel  it is safer with him than their female friend. Yes, they also believe male friends will never use their secret as weapon  against them when misunderstanding comes up. They also believe male folks are more mature when  it comes to giving  perspective  about life and discuss their thought deeply.

2. ADVICE

This always comes in whenever they want to make it up with their lover. And they ask the  male friends what to do in a situation like this. Since they will say "put yourself  in his shoe" what will you? And he also need to fit himself into someone else's shoe since he is wearing from another one entirely( he is also in a relationship) he will not disappoint her and will  also give her befitting advice to the issue bothering her which the lady will need the her brain to weight  the advice before  making it a preferrable solution to the issue on ground. Advice is one of those  reason why female partners often  engage in more friendship with male than  female.

3. PROTECTION

Female hate going out alone base of study conducted. This is the reason why male best friend serve as protection  to them based on their  tactical mind not in violent manner will he protect them but from any form of harrassment by roadside  toasters. Which all of them will dare not to go near when  they see male friends behind them as we cant be with her all time. Female are fragile creature they need someone to protect  them in every situation it needed. They will have the main guy  i.e their lover  and still look out for that guy which they will friendzone totally and which will go to any length  to make them happy without ending up in bed with them.

Although male are not always happy seeing  male friends around their lovers, but nothing  is actually wrong with that if your girl try to do all in her power to make it clear and plane one to you . We are human, we get jealous but never let that ruin your relationship  because of innocent guy.
Note: their are things best said to friends than lovers, they have different place in every ones heart.